NHibernate and Parent/Child Collections

On a project that I'm currently involved with, I'm using NHibernate and a persistance-ignorant domain. Today NHibernate threw me a "You may not dereference an collection with cascade="all-delete-orphan"" error. This kind of had me confused for a bit. What this error means is this: When you have a parent-child relation in your domain, say something like this:

public class Parent
{
     ISet<Child> _children;
}

You can't do something like this in the parent class:

_children = new Set<Child>();

NHibernate gets angry with this and throws the aforementioned error.  It does this because the collection object that NHibernate was tracking is now gone.

What you need to do is something like:

_children.Clear();

The collection object that NHibernate is tracking is still around, so NHibernate can figure out how to persist the collection of child objects.